It's so easy to compare our lives to others. We all want to live the best lives we can live and all too often we judge our lives based on the
Keeping up with the Joneses’ theory. I had friends in High School who I thought lived lives that were so much better than mine. Decades later I've learned that wasn’t always the case. My abusive journey started later than some and earlier than others. The point being is when it happens, it's hard to acknowledge it. In that denial, the cycle of abuse cannot begin to end. Without it, healing is difficult. I'm talking about the sexual domestic abuse that's been a much spoken-of topic with regards to
politics this past week.
More specifically, the idea that women shouldn't come forward to speak of their abuse is now being bandied about. I call bullshit on this. There is a myriad of
reasons why women do not come forward. Books, theses, and essays have been written about why not - and still, too many men ignore the reasons. To state it more pointedly, the men who cause problems and ignore our explanations when we come forward
are the reasons.
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