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The power of an Oath
Author: TriSec    Date: 01/21/2012 12:12:05

Good Morning!

An early Saturday, but I'm not going far; I have a rather rare opening shift at the store today. It's also supposed to snow...so it's probably going to be a madhouse. Too bad we did the spring floorset earlier in the week. (No, really!) Where were you in October when we were stuffed to the gills with winter stuff?

But on to the matters at hand.


I've sworn a lot of oaths in my life. Beginning from when I was about 8 years old, with one you might have heard about:


I promise to do my best to do my duty to God and my country, to help other people, and to obey the Law of the Pack.


I've spent much of my adult life teaching boys the meaning of these words...things like honor, duty, and the importance of keeping a promise.

Some 30 years ago now, I made another promise to a small group of friends while in high school...men I'm still in touch with today, and the origins of the term "Your Loyal TriSec". This also perhaps kindled my interest in politics; it's a total geek thing, but if anyone is familiar with micronationalism, you might have some inkling what this is about.

The oath I take most seriously, and one that has been a guiding principle of how I conduct myself and my affairs comes from Scouting's honour society...I won't quote the whole thing, but the relevant passage is thus:


I will always regard the ties of brotherhood in the Order of the Arrow as lasting, and will seek to preserve a cheerful spirit, even in the midst of irksome tasks and weighty responsibilities, and will endeavor, so far as in my power lies, to be unselfish in service and devotion to the welfare of others.


Ah, but this is all Scouting, which to many is a world unto itself. As far as I know, the only candidate with any Scouting background was Rick Perry (who is an Eagle), but is no longer playing.

Scouting isn't the only place where there are oaths...I'd have to guess that at one time or another all of us have participated in one kind of promise or another. There's another one that a lot of us are familiar with, and it usually goes something like this:


I take you to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife).

Before these witnesses I vow to love you and care for you as long as we both shall live.

I take you, with all your faults and strengths, as I offer myself to you with all my faults and strengths.

I will help you when you need help, and turn to you when I need help.

I choose you as the person with whom I will spend my life.


For many, this is the single most important thing you will do in your life. This is perhaps the only oath among them all that contains the phrasing "till death do us part". No authority gives this Oath; it's one you give freely of yourself, on your sacred honour and trust. This is perhaps the most powerful authority of all.

While I am loath to agree with any Republican candidate on anything, I do have to tip my cap to Mr. Perry again...for during a prior debate he nailed it dead-on:


Well, you know, I-- I think the voters are wise enough to figure that one out. I've always kind of been of the opinion that-- if you cheat on your wife, you'll cheat on your business partner. So-- I think that-- issue of fidelity is-- important. I mean, it's-- it-- it's a characteristic of which people look at-- individuals, whether it's in their business lives or whether it's in their personal lives, or whether it's pickin' someone that-- served-- in public office for them.

Individuals who have been-- fidelit-- in-- in fidelity with-- with their spouse-- I think that sends a very powerful message. If you will cheat on your wife, if you will cheat on your spouse, then why wouldn't you cheat on your business partner or why wouldn't you cheat on anybody for that matter?


I take my oaths very seriously. This is something I promise to someone on my sacred honour; this is the one thing that isn't given to me by authorities or even God. These things can take a lifetime to earn, and can be destroyed in an instant. I know how powerful this can be...it's happened to me twice, both times leading to life-changing decisions.

People do many things for many reasons....but things like honor, duty, and trust should be sacrosanct. After all, if something as imposing as "until death do us part" means as little to some persons as it seems to, what hope do we have that another oath might be followed and indeed kept?


I do solemnly swear (or affirm) that I will faithfully execute the Office of President of the United States, and will to the best of my ability, preserve, protect and defend the Constitution of the United States.

 

7 comments (Latest Comment: 01/22/2012 01:49:50 by Raine)
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Comment by BobR on 01/21/2012 13:59:28
Maybe the forced recitation as a child of the Pledge of Allegiance has dampened in most people the idea of taking an oath seriously.

I too have violated the "till death do us part" pledge. It was not an easy decision to make. Perhaps in my heart I felt the marriage had died, and that was the death that made the parting acceptable.

Comment by livingonli on 01/21/2012 16:50:47
And then you wonder how Perry feels about that fidelity quote since he has now endorsed Gingrich.

Comment by Raine on 01/21/2012 17:39:53
Quote by livingonli:
And then you wonder how Perry feels about that fidelity quote since he has now endorsed Gingrich.
I'm wondering about that as well.



Comment by Raine on 01/21/2012 18:14:24
This is -- to be honest, an amazing and brutally honest critique from WaPo's "On Faith" columnist, Lisa Miller.

I really could not agree more.

Comment by Raine on 01/22/2012 00:01:25
This blog, today deserves a lot of discussion. I've taken some time to comment on it, because, as Bob mentioned --he says he 'violated that oath'. That is a heavy burden to bear-- not just for him, but for myself -- persoanlly as well.

Our marriage -- one can argue, fairly-- is the result of that violation. One can also discuss until the end of time WHAT was the breaking point of that oath. That is not for me to say WRT to Bob. It is for me to say how I dealt with my personal situation and my feeling towards the man who would become my husband. I think there is a fair assertion to be made about what happens when a violation of an oath happens. Death might be the endgame -- but I think it is fair to say that a lot of other things are included in that marriage oath.

There is a big difference between personal oaths and those one takes to protect defend and serve the constitution of the United States of America. (I'm getting there, bear with me on my ramble.)

A marriage Oath is very serious -- and a dissolution of that oath is a very personal decision. It is equally as serious as the original oath itself. An oath can be based on religion or secular beliefs. Bob and I married in the Fulton County, Atlanta Georgia, courthouse. Our marriage is based upon a secular ideology. Our relationship is based upon love and communication. Both are by choice. We do not impose our personal beliefs upon others.

I'm not knocking religion -- or loyalty here. I am saying that taking an oath is important -- I just wonder who decides what breaks an oath when it is between 2 people and god, as opposed to one that is taken for an organization or under a constitution.

I am not excusing Newt Gingrich, and I plan on writing more about this in the near future.


All that said, believe in my heart that the greatest oath a human can make is this: "I am your parent"

Perhaps I am a coward, but I was never willing or brave enough to take that oath. I never had that mommy gene. I had moments and flashes, but it was often replaced by the reality of who I am as a person. And that isn't an apology -- it is actually born from a healthy self esteem. I am a far better aunt than a mother.

One can sell a house -- One can divorce --but once a person gives birth or adopts -- that changes everything. That is a lifetime commitment that is not something one can really walk away from.

I was a girl scout. Unlike Tri, as a boy scout, It did not become a day to day part of my life. I am long departed from being a scout. I do remember this oath we took:
On my honor, I will try:
To serve God and my country,
To help people at all times,
And to live by the Girl Scout Law.
I will do my best to be
honest and fair,
friendly and helpful,
considerate and caring,
courageous and strong, and
responsible for what I say and do,
and to
respect myself and others,
respect authority,
use resources wisely,
make the world a better place, and
be a sister to every Girl Scout.









Comment by clintster on 01/22/2012 01:13:19
Great blog, Tri. I will say that on the subject of marriage, our marriage is my first and Mrs. C's second. She was married really young the first time and divorced after a really abusive union.

Also, let me say that as a native Georgian who lived for many years in South Carolina, I am sooooooo proud that Newt Gingrich carried the SC primary.






Comment by Raine on 01/22/2012 01:49:50
Quote by clintster:
Great blog, Tri. I will say that on the subject of marriage, our marriage is my first and Mrs. C's second. She was married really young the first time and divorced after a really abusive union.

Also, let me say that as a native Georgian who lived for many years in South Carolina, I am sooooooo proud that Newt Gingrich carried the SC primary.




You Clint, get a double hug of sympathy.

Newt is really wretched.