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'No means no.'
Author: Raine    Date: 10/13/2016 13:03:48

We can agree with that, right?

If we agree, read on. If you don't agree, stop reading.

There are actually times when we are faced with an abusive situation and we didn't get the chance to say 'NO'

Sometimes the abuse happens so fast that we cannot even comprehend what is actually happening in real-time to have the ability to say 'NO'. Sometimes the abuser is bigger and stronger than us. Sometimes it's someone who is actually loved.

It's easy to ask in hindsight, Why didn't you just say 'no'?

Often, time moves on for abuse victims. The actual act of abuse may never go away, but time does march on.

We may want to try to move on with life. We may not want to be blamed for the abuse that was put upon us. We may not look for revenge. We may not want to further rock the boat.

Take some time and believe your friends when they speak of abusive behavior -- it does't have to be solely sexual abuse. It could be emotional, physical or anything that takes away from your existence as a full and complete human being.

Be a safe place for those who couldn't - for whatever reason - say no.

Some of us women grew up in a time when we were told muddying the waters wasn't cool. We could be feminist, but we still had to stay in our place. We would speak of it in quiet, smaller circles, but never like what we are seeing today.

They nominated a monster. Now that Monster is in a corner and is the face of the GOP.
"Men don’t brag about forcing themselves on women. They want to paint themselves as desirable, and, you know, he doesn’t look like a stud here. He looks like a predator. I’ve never heard men talk this way. This is boasting of something that shows your own weakness. It shows, you know, that a woman doesn’t want you; whereas, most boasts in these kind of scenarios are about women who do want you."
(snip)
...among the things that I think I’ve learned is that he’s truly the offspring of Roy Cohn and Joe McCarthy. He’s more violent in his way of thinking than I understood him to be. He’s less attached to reality than I thought he was.

I think we’ve learned that the leadership of the GOP lacks courage, that their party’s internal division triumphed over any adherence to conservative values, classic conservative values, and that the leadership of that party waited until the eleventh hour to distance itself from Trump and still hasn’t completely, that there’s a complete lack of political courage in this country.

This is who they've allowed to become the nominee for president of the United States of America for the Republican party:
We walked into that room alone, and Trump shut the door behind us. I turned around, and within seconds he was pushing me against the wall and forcing his tongue down my throat.

Now, I’m a tall, strapping girl who grew up wrestling two giant brothers. I even once sparred with Mike Tyson. It takes a lot to push me. But Trump is much bigger — a looming figure — and he was fast, taking me by surprise and throwing me off balance. I was stunned. And I was grateful when Trump’s longtime butler burst into the room a minute later, as I tried to unpin myself.

The butler informed us that Melania would be down momentarily, and it was time to resume the interview.

I was still in shock and remained speechless as we both followed him to an outdoor patio overlooking the grounds. In those few minutes alone with Trump, my self-esteem crashed to zero. How could the actions of one man make me feel so utterly violated? I’d been interviewing A-list celebrities for over 20 years, but what he’d done was a first. Did he think I’d be flattered?

I tried to act normal. I had a job to do, and I was determined to do it. I sat in a chair that faced Trump, who waited for his wife on a loveseat. The butler left us, and I fumbled with my tape recorder. Trump smiled and leaned forward.

“You know we’re going to have an affair, don’t you?” he declared, in the same confident tone he uses when he says he’s going to make America great again. “Have you ever been to Peter Luger’s for steaks? I’ll take you. We’re going to have an affair, I’m telling you.” He also referenced the infamous cover of the New York Post during his affair with Marla Maples.

“You remember,” he said. “‘Best Sex I Ever Had.’ ”

They told us it was just locker room talk. We were told it was all in our heads what we were seeing and feeling.

Turns out, we were right all along and we tried to say no. On November 8, we will have the last word.

and
Raine

42 comments (Latest Comment: 10/13/2016 21:52:39 by Scoopster)
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Comment by BobR on 10/13/2016 13:32:15
Powerful stuff. Apparently, there IS a limit to what people are willing to take.

Comment by Raine on 10/13/2016 13:46:31
Comment by Raine on 10/13/2016 13:49:44
Quote by BobR:
Powerful stuff. Apparently, there IS a limit to what people are willing to take.

you are my friend and my hero, babe. Thank you for being there these past few days.

Comment by Scoopster on 10/13/2016 13:50:49
Mornin' all..

BTW What's the deal with Chrissie Hynde getting on that wagon?
I know she's a victim herself, but I have to disagree with her - being high, drunk, young and stupid is NOT asking to be raped.

Comment by wickedpam on 10/13/2016 13:54:22
Morning

Comment by BobR on 10/13/2016 13:54:27

so many dirty jokes...

Comment by BobR on 10/13/2016 13:56:59
Quote by Scoopster:
Mornin' all..

BTW What's the deal with Chrissie Hynde getting on that wagon?
I know she's a victim herself, but I have to disagree with her - being high, drunk, young and stupid is NOT asking to be raped.

I suppose she thinks she's being realistic, but she's really just excusing rape culture

Comment by Mondobubba on 10/13/2016 13:57:24
Comment by Mondobubba on 10/13/2016 13:58:17
Quote by BobR:

so many dirty jokes...


Yeah I went there too, Bobber.


Comment by Scoopster on 10/13/2016 13:59:53
Quote by BobR:

so many dirty jokes...

inb4 Virginia turns out to be the pre-teen daughter of one of his illegal immigrant maids.

Comment by Raine on 10/13/2016 14:03:16
Quote by BobR:
Quote by Scoopster:
Mornin' all..

BTW What's the deal with Chrissie Hynde getting on that wagon?
I know she's a victim herself, but I have to disagree with her - being high, drunk, young and stupid is NOT asking to be raped.

I suppose she thinks she's being realistic, but she's really just excusing rape culture
Yes to both of you.


Comment by BobR on 10/13/2016 14:08:22
Quote by Raine:
Quote by BobR:
Quote by Scoopster:
Mornin' all..

BTW What's the deal with Chrissie Hynde getting on that wagon?
I know she's a victim herself, but I have to disagree with her - being high, drunk, young and stupid is NOT asking to be raped.

I suppose she thinks she's being realistic, but she's really just excusing rape culture
Yes to both of you.

Saying "boys will be boys, but we're stronger than them" is not good enough. I am disappointed in her, especially considering her history. I remember seeing her on the Howard Stern Show (many years ago), and he was essentially assaulting her, trying to kiss her, wagging his tongue, and she was hiding her face in her arms. I was appalled, and stopped watching the show after that.

But boys will be boys...

Comment by Scoopster on 10/13/2016 14:08:32

It's a good day in the world - Dylan's got a Nobel and HOCKEY IS BACK TONITE BABY!



Comment by BobR on 10/13/2016 14:20:01
Comment by Raine on 10/13/2016 14:37:59
Quote by BobR:
Quote by Raine:
Quote by BobR:
Quote by Scoopster:
Mornin' all..

BTW What's the deal with Chrissie Hynde getting on that wagon?
I know she's a victim herself, but I have to disagree with her - being high, drunk, young and stupid is NOT asking to be raped.

I suppose she thinks she's being realistic, but she's really just excusing rape culture
Yes to both of you.

Saying "boys will be boys, but we're stronger than them" is not good enough. I am disappointed in her, especially considering her history. I remember seeing her on the Howard Stern Show (many years ago), and he was essentially assaulting her, trying to kiss her, wagging his tongue, and she was hiding her face in her arms. I was appalled, and stopped watching the show after that.

But boys will be boys...
like I said yesterday -- times have changed. it is now part of our American psyche that these things are no longer acceptable.

and maybe, just maybe, that is the silver lining in all of this.


Comment by Raine on 10/13/2016 14:39:46
Comment by Mondobubba on 10/13/2016 14:47:06


Isn't that amazing?

Comment by Raine on 10/13/2016 14:50:44
Comment by Raine on 10/13/2016 14:52:40

I just saw that. There was a damn genocide happening!

Comment by Scoopster on 10/13/2016 14:57:05
Quote by Raine:

I just saw that. There was a damn genocide happening!

I noticed he called the Serbians 'great people'. Does that include his wives, and all the people who were killing ethnic muslims?

Comment by Raine on 10/13/2016 15:03:36
Quote by Scoopster:
Quote by Raine:

I just saw that. There was a damn genocide happening!

I noticed he called the Serbians 'great people'. Does that include his wives, and all the people who were killing ethnic muslims?
IKR?

Trump is a dangerous man. This is really dangerous stuff. HE really is acting like he an arm of the Kremlin.


Comment by Raine on 10/13/2016 15:35:44
I love that they are playing Drunk Trump on the SMShow!

Comment by Raine on 10/13/2016 15:59:08
Comment by Raine on 10/13/2016 16:18:58
Uhm, it's almost 12:30.





Comment by Scoopster on 10/13/2016 16:51:20
Wow this ad is AMAZING. I'm so gonna miss this man.




Comment by Scoopster on 10/13/2016 17:04:22
Comment by velveeta jones on 10/13/2016 17:10:16
uh....
correction: the election is NOV. 28, 2016



Comment by Mondobubba on 10/13/2016 17:10:35
Quote by Scoopster:
Wow this ad is AMAZING. I'm so gonna miss this man.




Damn onions, allergies and dust.

Comment by Scoopster on 10/13/2016 17:52:45
i... wha... FUCKING WOW ARE YOU KIDDING ME HE ACTUALLY SAID THIS SHIT?!

At the debate the other night, Hillary had nothing. The only thing she has going for her is her breasts. Without her breasts, she is zero.


Comment by livingonli on 10/13/2016 18:05:15
I am really hoping Trump goes down like Bill Cosby. Hopefully, there is something that can be verified that could put him in jail. Hopefully, Karma will be a bitch to him.

Comment by Scoopster on 10/13/2016 18:23:03
And now he's saying that the People magazine reporter that came forward is lying because she's too ugly to warrant his attentions..
"Take look. You take a look. Look at her. Look at her words. You tell me what you think. I don't think so. I don't think so."


Comment by Mondobubba on 10/13/2016 18:46:01
Comment by Mondobubba on 10/13/2016 18:48:32
Quote by Scoopster:
i... wha... FUCKING WOW ARE YOU KIDDING ME HE ACTUALLY SAID THIS SHIT?!

At the debate the other night, Hillary had nothing. The only thing she has going for her is her breasts. Without her breasts, she is zero.


http://memecrunch.com/meme/SUZU/citation-needed/image.jpg


Comment by BobR on 10/13/2016 18:53:15
Quote by Mondobubba:
http://memecrunch.com/meme/SUZU/citation-needed/image.jpg

:shudder:

Comment by BobR on 10/13/2016 18:56:43
Comment by Scoopster on 10/13/2016 19:03:36
Quote by Mondobubba:
Quote by Scoopster:
i... wha... FUCKING WOW ARE YOU KIDDING ME HE ACTUALLY SAID THIS SHIT?!

At the debate the other night, Hillary had nothing. The only thing she has going for her is her breasts. Without her breasts, she is zero.

http://memecrunch.com/meme/SUZU/citation-needed/image.jpg

Apparently he said 'press' not 'breasts'.

...

The fact that we're even having to wonder about this shit says a lot about this campaign.

Comment by Mondobubba on 10/13/2016 19:50:23
Quote by BobR:
Quote by Mondobubba:
http://memecrunch.com/meme/SUZU/citation-needed/image.jpg

:shudder:



I have the best memes.

Comment by Raine on 10/13/2016 21:15:09
Quote by Scoopster:
i... wha... FUCKING WOW ARE YOU KIDDING ME HE ACTUALLY SAID THIS SHIT?!

At the debate the other night, Hillary had nothing. The only thing she has going for her is her breasts. Without her breasts, she is zero.

WE were talking abut this, Kenny Pick (after hearing what we all thought we heard) did a search and thinks he said Press.

I was astounded by a lot more things in that speech today. At certain points he sounded suicidal.


Comment by Scoopster on 10/13/2016 21:52:39
Quote by Raine:
Quote by Scoopster:
i... wha... FUCKING WOW ARE YOU KIDDING ME HE ACTUALLY SAID THIS SHIT?!

At the debate the other night, Hillary had nothing. The only thing she has going for her is her breasts. Without her breasts, she is zero.

WE were talking abut this, Kenny Pick (after hearing what we all thought we heard) did a search and thinks he said Press.

I was astounded by a lot more things in that speech today. At certain points he sounded suicidal.

There was one point where he went full paraphrase Hitler - “Imagine what our country could accomplish if we started working together as one people, under one god, saluting one flag.”